Please answer these questions in your head:
- Is the secret (or secrets) really embarassing or very personal--something that your not proud of at all
- How well do you know your boyfriend/girlfriend? How long have you dated?
- Do I trust them enough to tell them?
So if your answers were: no/yes, I know them very well (almost like twins), a long time (about a year or 2), and yes then it might be a good idea to tell them, no matter what kind of secret it is, so they don't feel mistrusted. Honesty is the best play in a relationship; all you have to do is time it right. Too soon your guy/girl will feel like the relationship is moving to fast or it could scare them off, but do it too late and they'll wonder why you didn't tell them earlier and second-guess your trust towards them.
It will make you feel a whole lot better if you let it off your chest, especially to someone you care about and known for so long, instead of pondering whether or not they'll still love you afterwards. If in the end, they decide that this secret is something they want to break up upon then they weren't worth your time.
If your answers were: yes, not very well, about a couple of weeks or less, and not very well then keep it to yourself. You don't want to tell all your deepest, darkest secrets and then find the relationship's ended and some of those secrets are being told to everyone. Wait until your relationship has gone through about a year. Then it might be a good time to admitt some of those secrets.
~Ally-Cat
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