Dating Questions

Why are girls into "bad boys"?

It's thrilling to be with a bad boy.  The leather jacket, cool shades, motorcycle, the atittude. . . It's a turn on.  Some girls do it because they want to "change them". Turn a bad boy into devoted, in-love boyfriend.  But usually bad boys are players.  So if you're the best guy friend type who can't seem to get the girl? No worries. It's really just a phase we, girls, go through.  When it's really time to get down to business--finding a decent guy who loves you for you--guys like you are #1 pick. 
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If I'm dating a "bad boy" what should I be careful of?

Falling in love. These guys are experts at charming and swooning women, just so they can *cough*you know*cough*.  Remember: it's not a relationship so keep your mind from thinking it'll become one because chances are, it won't.  We aren't in a novel, ladies, it's reality, let's get real.  Keep your smarts on, don't drink to much (if you do it will lead to your downfall), and REMEMBER: he's going to want to make you think he's falling for you so he'll say pretty things and junk like that.  Don't fall for it.  We are women! And we are not toys that you can play with and then throw away when you're bored with it! Good luck!
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How much makeup should I wear during a date?

Not a lot.  Keep it natural or at least minimal.  Guys hate it when girls wear tons of makeup.  They say that it makes you look like a "racoon" or "a beaten up bimbo".  So in other words, don't look trashy, big turn off.
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Should I or should I not kiss on the first date?

I say, that's up to you.  Are you comfortable with it? Do you want to kiss your date? Did you like your date that much to kiss them?  Many people do the Second Date Rule: if you go out with the same person a second time you may kiss them.  Do what ever you're comfortable with, but I suggest no French kissing on the first date.  That's just weird. . .
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How old should you be to start dating?

I say 15-16 yrs. old.  But most people start at 12-13 yrs old.  To me that's really dumb.  Who wants that kind of pressure when your that young?  *smirk* Of course, depending on how old you are, it's up to your parents what age at which you should be dating. . .
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What if someone asks you if you want to go on a date and you say yes, but then your crush, asks you if you want to go out and you want to say yes but are unsure. . What should you do?

I'd follow the "first come, first serve" rule.  Fate is fate.  I say, tell your crush that you were already asked. Go out with the first guy/girl.  If that date doesn't work out, the next time you see your crush, strike up a conversation with them and somehow bring up that it didn't work out with your other date and ask if they'd like to still go out.
But you never know, you might like the first person more than your crush. . .
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Okay, what if someone asks you out, but you say you'll think about it, and then, your crush asks you out? What do you do?

Classic.
Well, do you like the first person who asked you out? Sounds like if you said "I'll think about" means you don't want to at all.  Oh, boy. Okay, 2 choices here:
1. Say yes to one of them, but break the other person's heart in doing so.  But when rejecting them, BE HONEST, if they find out you lied to them your only going to make it worse.
2. Say no to both and hope for the best. No one gets hurt too bad. Plus, you won't have a bad conscience on your date if you picked choice #1.

I say go with #2, no matter how much you don't want to do it...
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How do you know if the person your dating is into you?

If they're acting nervous.  Keep messing up, clumsy.  They could be making up cheesy jokes to make you laugh.  A girl would have a hard time looking you in the eye if you likes you (either that or she's mad at you!).  A guy will want to hold your hand and want to make you smile.  Stuttering is a good sign. :) 
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How do I know if I'm dating the wrong person?

*Scratches head* Uh, it really depends on your "type".  If you're getting a bad feeling in the pit of your stomach, that's a sign that the date might not go to well.  However, when dating, please, keep an open mind.  Focus on personality and not just looks.
I'm not the best at decifering this type of dating problem so click here for 8 signs that you're dating the wrong person.
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If you have question that wasn't answered in the above, then please put it in the comment section below. I'll do my best to help you out. Thank you.


~All-Cat

Interesting and Helpful Tips For High School Freshmen!

Alright, high school is a big step from junior high.  You have more homework and different teachers--not to mention some of them are a bit looney.  Some of your friends might be going to a different school than your are and etc, etc. Anyway, long story short, you're probably terrified about going to high school, especially your first day.  So here are few tips for preparing for this long 4-year long journey:

Go to the Open House!
It's a nice way to see the school before it's crowded with students and maybe seek out some possible new friends!  (Meeting some of the teachers wouldn't hurt either.)

Be prepared (emotionally and physically)
Of course, have all your supplies ready, but also make sure your emotions are in check, especially some of the dramatics.  Yes, it's okay to be sad--'cause let's face it, high school's rough!--, but don't bawl your eyes out because "everything from this point on is going to change!" or "I'm soo going to get beaten up!".  Puh-lease! Yeah, it will change, but that only happens if you allow it to.  And, for the love of Pete, just be wary of the stuff that leaves your mouth and keep your hands to yourself (aka NO FIGHTING) and you'll be fine.  Just be yourself.  High school isn't as bad as you think it is. (I know that sound totally cliche, but it's true!)  It just depends on the high school you go to.  If your attending a high school with a bad rep (Fighting, drugs, etc) just be careful with who you trust and be smart (remember say no to drugs and smoking).  Work hard in class and do all the studying and homework.  LIVE ABOVE THE EXPECTATIONS!

Okay as for the be prepared physically (Ew, okay, stop laughing, I know what you're thinking, alright? Don't be such a perv!), I'm talking about being in shape.  Reason 1: High schools are large! Lots of walking--and running, if you're late!  Backpacks are most likely going to be heavy, so brace yourself!  Reason 2: SPORTS! Wanna tryout for football?  Volleyball? Baseball? Soccer? Get into shape! Practice! You can't automatically gain muscle over summer break without trying.  So get out there and exercise! ;)

Set goals
It'll keep you focused and organized. It'll help you when you make choices down the road.

Step out of your comfort zone every once in a while
It doesn't hurt you if you go and ask that girl/guy out. It won't kill you if you asked if you could sit at their table.  But when I say "step out of your comfort zone every once in a while", be sensible about it.  It doesn't mean go try some weed that someone offered you, or crazy stuff like that.  Just small things like: changing your hair style, walking up to a random person and say "hey, I'm ___, what's your name?" It's actually kind of fun, and afterwards you become more confident and satisfied that you over came a fear of yours.

Set time away for friends and yourself
Organizing is harder than it seems in high school.  Sports, club meetings, homework, family time, friends' time, you time, studying time. . . It. Is. Crazy. Get a planner! It helps, tremendously.  Suggestion: Friday night, and Saterday is you/friend time, and Sun. Homework/Study time. 

Don't hold onto the past, be ready to let go. . .
Friends don't always stay friends "forever".  People change, better or worse, and move on.  I'm not saying that you and your old friends should part, but have an open mind, allow yourself to meet new people. Try new things: sports and clubs.  High school is like a new life, if there was something that you didn't like before, now is the time to change.  No one will know what you were like before, take this into your advantage.  Don't become hurt or angry that your friend(s) do the same and drift apart.  It's natural. Imbrace it, don't deface it.

Things To Remember

1. Work hard!
2. You're human, everyone makes mistakes!
3. BE YOURSELF (only good, longlasting friends will stay with you because they like you for you!)
4. Say no to drugs, smoking, etc. (in the long run, it'll be worth it, just think: you 10 years from now, successful and happy and then think about those who said yes, in the pits and unhappy...)
5. Set goals (organization is key!)
6. Be ready for change...

Questions? Comments? Don't hesitate to ask!

~Ally-Cat

My Opinion of Valentine From The Mortal Instruments! (SPOILERS)

Okay, by now you guys are probably sick of me talking about MI so much, so from this post on I promise I'll leave it be until the next book comes out. Okay? Okay. (If you wish to not read my opinion, then by all means, skip this post!)


So Valentine, to me, was a good man with insane views of the Clave and the Law. Yes, the Clave and the Law is "out-of-date", so to speak, but to turn away from family and to do all the horrible stuff he did to his fellow Shadowhunters is wrong.  He saw his experiments and his plan as something that would turn out good--at least, that's what he told himself.

I think that he wasn't as bad when he was younger. When Luke said that after his father's death (not his, but Valentine's) by a pack of werewolves he became a more short-tempered, and insane person. Doesn't that remind you of someone? King Henry VIII, perhaps? Henry and Valentine both became very different people after their fathers' deaths. You may not know this, but Henry's father wasn't the kindest man ever, he taxed the people of England heavily and things like that, and made Henry's life a living h-e-double-hocky-sticks during his years as a teenager. Henry was, in a way, imprisoned in him in his own home and was watched all the time and had very few people who were allowed to have visit him. It was like this until his father, Henry VII, died. And in as a result I think that's partly why Henry became the man that he was. He's most recent memories of his father were probably the feeling of loneliness and unloved, resentment and bitterness.
Death of a person you love can really change you, for better or for worse. And sadly, the worst came out of Valentine. So that's where, I think, his hatred towards Downworlders started and his obsession to take down the Clave came from.

A couple of reasons I believe Valentine was, in some ways, a good person is at the end of City of Glass, when he tells Clary about the past and how he feels about Jocelyn. He says that he searched for her because he still loved her--though he was looking for the Mortal Cup, so I highly doubt that he solely looked for her because he loved her.  He also said he was devistated when he found her and found out why she left him--she told him that she didn't want her second child to turn into a monster like her first, but what he didn't realize that she was also afraid of what he'd become--and knew that he'd never get her back as soon as Clary was born, even though he still loved her.
Also, when Jocelyn was telling her part of the past, she mentions that during her sleep state Valentine told her that during the end of their marriage he noticed she was unhappy, even though she pretended she wasn't, so he used angel blood, and grounded it up into her food to make her happier--apparently angel blood makes you feel bubbly.

And there's his relationship with Jace.  Jace said that at times, he was horrible, killing his pets and abused him, but other times, he showed him how to sail, taught him to be strong and clever, and showed him small acts of affection.  At the end of City of Glass, Valentine also tells Clary that he loved Jace's weaknesses, even though he shouldn't. 
I believe that Valentine truely loved Jace.  Sebastian/Jonathan was too evil and inhuman, too demon-like, and I think Valentine couldn't fully love him for it.  So I think Jace saved Valentine in a way.  Jace was more human like, and he therefore, was more of a son to Valentine.  Sebastian/Jonathan would always be loyal to Valentine and be the "indestructable" warrior that he always wanted, but Jace would always be the like son that I think Valentine, deep down, wanted as well, but could never have with his real son, Sabastian/Jonathan.  I think the time that Valentine shared with Jace, kept the good part of him alive.

My belief is that if you are truely evil you wouldn't be worrying about making your wife happy or whether she still loves you.  If you are truely evil, you wouldn't care about  a "weak" angel boy, who was never your son to began with.   No, Valentine was not an evil man, just a man with questionable morals and views. . .


~Ally-Cat

New Year Resolution!

Okay, usually I make one New Year Resolution, but this year I'm making more.

-Get in shape
-Study for exams!
-make myself a better person (try to fix bad habits!)
-listen to others more

Hopefully I don't disappoint myself like I do every year. . .
So what is your New Year Resolution(s)?

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Ever read Everlost. It's a Neal Shusterman novel.  Here's a description:

Nick and Allie don't survive the car accident, but their souls don't go where they're supposed to, either. Instead, they're caught halfway between life and death, in a sort of limbo known as Everlost: a shadow of the living world, filled with all the things and places that no longer exist.

I read it 2 years ago, with raw curiosity which then blossomed into a great interest and love for the book.  It's such an interesting concept.  The characters are really interesting and defined.  It's wonderful how Shusterman can make you see each of their views in the world and understand why they see it like that.   His writing style is unique: different, but easily comprehendable.  This is one of my favorite books and as of right now, I've started its sequel: Everwild.  I'm on Chapter 5. :)

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~Ally-Cat